Anne Kosem Life Coach

When you thought I wasn’t looking...


When you thought I wasn’t looking…

By September 20th, 2015 Uncategorized Comments Off on When you thought I wasn’t looking…

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator, and I wanted to paint another. 

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you feed a stray cat, and I thought it was good to be kind to animals.          

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make my favorite cake just for me, and I knew that little things are special things.                                                                                                                                                                                                                         

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I heard you say a prayer, and I believed there is a God I could always talk to.     

When you thought I wasn’t

looking, I felt you kiss me goodnight, and I felt loved.                                                                     

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw tears come from your eyes, and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it’s all right to cry.   ~Unknown

I admit to getting a little misty reading this– thinking of my own children, of how vulnerable and impressionable they are, especially, in those early years. It got me thinking…What are my children learning from me? What aren’t they learning from me? What values am I telling them, but not showing them?”

We all want our children to know they are loved and to grow up to be responsible, caring adults.  We also want them to live happy, healthy, well-rounded lives. As a society, we strive to teach children to care for one another.  Share your toys, use nice words, be a good sport…  Most also put a high value of hard work and responsibility.  Where we fall short is in teaching the importance of self-care. This is a key ingredient in a fulfilling life and most of us aren’t modeling it well.

How often do you take time for yourself? Do you ever feel guilty afterward? That is how most mothers and a growing number of fathers feel.  Whether it is a natural or a learned response, it is also a habit. One that parents and care givers need to ban together and demolish for the sake of future generations! It doesn’t serve us or our children to deprive ourselves of our needs. Amen, right? Am I the only one cheering? All I know is that when I’m tired and depleted, I am not at my best for anyone let alone the most important people in my life.

It’s time to make a shift!  Since words are a call to action, please join me in continuing this poem in your own words…

This is what I wrote to get you started:

I saw you carving out little bits of time for yourself and I learned it’s important to do nice things for myself sometimes…                                                                                                                                                                                                                       

I saw you exploring your passions and I knew it was important for me to take pride in my interests…                                       

I saw you forgiving yourself, and I learned how to let go of my mistakes… 

SO…. the next time you do nice for yourself make sure to replace any lingering feelings of guilt with the knowledge that you are not only honoring yourself, but teaching others a valuable life lesson!


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