Anne Kosem Life Coach

Praise Please!


Praise Please!

By April 16th, 2018 Uncategorized Comments Off on Praise Please!

Praise is a source of light we all have the power to give. There are just a few things to keep in mind when giving it:

  • Do it Often!
  • Make it Specific.
    • General praise can feel inauthentic.
  • Never Follow it with “But…”
    • The “But”cancels out the praise every time, regardless of how you deliver it. Even if you sandwich it with praise (praise-criticism-praise), they will only remember the criticism!
    • Give constructive criticism separately whenever possible.

This doesn’t only apply to our children and our employees. It applies to everyone around us. Friends, family, co-workers, servers, even spouses. Why? The simple answer is that we all need it. One negative comment carries the same weight as that of Five positive comments. And negativity has a way of spreading, fast. I think we can all agree, that’s something we don’t need! So, helping others actually helps us too.

Here’s the Challenge: In every conversation you have today, no matter the person or the subject matter, pretend they are asking you one overriding question: “Do you approve of me?” When they walk away, ask yourself if you answered it.

 


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